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apersnicketylemon:

revolutioninabox:

A pro-life group in Lansing, Michigan says fetal models have helped save a baby from a late-term abortion. Officials with 40 Days for Life in Lansing posted a picture of a set of fetal models that it says helped changed a woman’s mind about having an abortion.“ I showed the 30-week model to a late-term mom who left the clinic and DID NOT have an abortion. Praise God!” the group wrote.

Literally none of these except the final one is anatomically correct. You literally have a minuturized born infant model as your 12 weeks ant 8 weeks fetus, this is BLATANT misinformation and lies.
Additionally abortions at 30 weeks? Aren’t legal ANYWHERE in the world unless the fetus is already fucking dead or cannot survive outside the uterus on it’s own. You didn’t save ANYTHING, or else you are lying about gestational age OR they weren’t actually going for an abortion or you made the whole story up.
This is propaganda, misinformation and lies, it’s disgusting and it doesn’t actually help your movement. This is (among the reasons) why pro choicers think pro liars are full of shit, and refuse to respect you or your movement. 

apersnicketylemon:

revolutioninabox:

A pro-life group in Lansing, Michigan says fetal models have helped save a baby from a late-term abortion. Officials with 40 Days for Life in Lansing posted a picture of a set of fetal models that it says helped changed a woman’s mind about having an abortion.“ I showed the 30-week model to a late-term mom who left the clinic and DID NOT have an abortion. Praise God!” the group wrote.

Literally none of these except the final one is anatomically correct. You literally have a minuturized born infant model as your 12 weeks ant 8 weeks fetus, this is BLATANT misinformation and lies.

Additionally abortions at 30 weeks? Aren’t legal ANYWHERE in the world unless the fetus is already fucking dead or cannot survive outside the uterus on it’s own. You didn’t save ANYTHING, or else you are lying about gestational age OR they weren’t actually going for an abortion or you made the whole story up.

This is propaganda, misinformation and lies, it’s disgusting and it doesn’t actually help your movement. This is (among the reasons) why pro choicers think pro liars are full of shit, and refuse to respect you or your movement. 

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werethatgeneration:

We’re the generation of women who will teach their sons to act respectfully instead of teaching our daughters to beware

This is everything I stand for.

Posted 2 days ago With 139,423 notes

persephoneholly:

ten-and-donna:

kissnecks:

THIS OKAY

You want to get kids out of foster care and into good, loving homes? I’ve got a simple solution to your problem.

Did you know LGBT couples are more likely to adopt older, children of color and disable children than straight couples? LGBT couples tend to adopt ‘undesired’ children more (basically kids no one else wants.)

persephoneholly:

ten-and-donna:

kissnecks:

THIS OKAY

You want to get kids out of foster care and into good, loving homes? I’ve got a simple solution to your problem.

Did you know LGBT couples are more likely to adopt older, children of color and disable children than straight couples? LGBT couples tend to adopt ‘undesired’ children more (basically kids no one else wants.)

almaloving:

sapphiremomma:

bre-and-beau:

ebbaliciousz:

Mother Dalishia Salter abused her infant son and placed him outside in frigid temperatures. Father David Bryant found his son on the front porch severely beaten and has video proof of him finding his son as he tries to get into the home of ex-girlfriend Dalishia Salters.
Upon coming into the house Mr Bryant says, quote “you hurt my baby” while mother Dalishia Salters is seen and heard in video repeating “Oh well I’ll kill him”. [[VIDEO HERE]]
The Pittsburgh Police have since issued a warrant for Mr Bryant’s arrest because the mother accused him of hurting the baby. Why should David Bryant be jailed for saving his own baby’s life while he has clear video proof he did not harm his baby? 
This father and son need justice! [[Petition]]
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Police are unaware of video evidence the father posted on facebook

This video is so upsetting. I just want to hold that baby. How could someone do that to an innocent child???

Wow. I just started crying I couldn’t even finish the video. Who could do this to their baby.

omg that poor baby!!!!!

almaloving:

sapphiremomma:

bre-and-beau:

ebbaliciousz:

Mother Dalishia Salter abused her infant son and placed him outside in frigid temperatures. Father David Bryant found his son on the front porch severely beaten and has video proof of him finding his son as he tries to get into the home of ex-girlfriend Dalishia Salters.

Upon coming into the house Mr Bryant says, quote “you hurt my baby” while mother Dalishia Salters is seen and heard in video repeating “Oh well I’ll kill him”. [[VIDEO HERE]]

The Pittsburgh Police have since issued a warrant for Mr Bryant’s arrest because the mother accused him of hurting the baby. Why should David Bryant be jailed for saving his own baby’s life while he has clear video proof he did not harm his baby? 

This father and son need justice! [[Petition]]

Article

Article 2

Police are unaware of video evidence the father posted on facebook

This video is so upsetting. I just want to hold that baby. How could someone do that to an innocent child???

Wow. I just started crying I couldn’t even finish the video. Who could do this to their baby.

omg that poor baby!!!!!

beautifulmadhouse:

I sit before flowers hoping they will train me in the art of opening up. Such a beautiful visual #childbirth #laboraffirmations #carriagehousebirth #doulas #midwifery #doula

beautifulmadhouse:

I sit before flowers hoping they will train me in the art of opening up. Such a beautiful visual #childbirth #laboraffirmations #carriagehousebirth #doulas #midwifery #doula

faeriesandlakes:

mamabeezoe:

faeriesandlakes:

thegingerdementor:

faeriesandlakes:

thegingerdementor:

momma-taye:

momandherskullkids:

faeriesandlakes:

How are you improving birth?
By speaking out?
By becoming a part of your birthing community?
By supporting mothers with similar stories to your own?
By refusing to accept that this is ‘just how things are’?
Submit you photo and sign up for an Improving Birth rally in your area today!

something very similar happened when I was in labor with my son. My doctor “wasn’t on call” and I got one of her partners that I had never met (still haven’t met) she strolled in with no sense of urgency. Then was surprised when she saw that I was crowning. Told me not to push because she hadn’t even donned gloves. I told her that I couldn’t just NOT push and she said I had better if I didn’t want my child to fall out onto the concrete floor (after making a smartass remark about how I refused an epidural)… After Kai was born, they immediately cut his cord against my wishes, then he was rushed off to the “warmer” without me getting to even see him. I begged for my child while she shoved her hand back into my uterus and scraped my placenta and the wall of my uterus with her hands.. Weeks prior to Kai’s arrival, I had set it up that his placenta/cord would go to science research, they disposed of it without consulting me. I cried for 2 hours until they brought me my child. I will NEVER have another hospital birth.

THAT IS SO AWFUL! I’m praying that the midwives at the hospital I’m going to be delivering in will better adhere to my wishes.

Wait, so in America they pull your placenta out? For real? What the actual fuck guys?! :( we get the choice of breastfeeding to allow it to come out naturally, or to get given an injection which will contract your uterus for the placenta to come out on its own.

In America it is standard practice to manually remove the placenta. They give the mother a bag of pitocin, then encourage her to push as they gently tug on the umbilical cord to help the placenta dislodge. Some doctors will not have the mom push and just pull. Some doctors will reach in and manually remove the placenta. It usually depends on whether or not the mother has had an epidural, needs more medical care, or if the doctor has another patient waiting or another patient needs the delivery room. They also want to examine the placenta for any tears or abnormalities before they leave, which doctors like to do fairly quickly as the delivery, so waiting around for the mother to naturally expel the placenta isn’t something they want to do. They also feel that the risk of hemorrhage is high if the mother delivers the placenta without supervision by a doctor or midwife, and since they like to leave, they want it done sooner rather than later.
All of this, of course, is against evidence based medicine and are things that should only be put into practice in an emergency medical situation, but since we treat every birth like it’s an emergency waiting to happen here in the states, everyone gets mostly the same ‘preventative’ treatments before, during, and after birth.

Oh wow :( that sounds awful! The injection we get also helps stop you bleeding out as well as contracting your uterus. It’s all over and done with in about 1-2 hours after birth. This is the time you spend skin to skin with the baby. This is all obviously based on a pretty normal labour and delivery, but even if something happens, they try and stick to that as much as possible.It may vary from place to place though. The place I’m going to give birth has had some pretty horrific stories, but I’m actually beginning to feel a lot more grateful that it’s not like the US!

Yeah, here the time after baby is born is commonly used to do injections, weigh, measure, get Apgars, deliver placenta, sew up tears, deliver any emergency care that is needed. Usually breastfeeding isn’t initiated until 1-2 hours after birth hence our abysmal breastfeeding rates. You have to ask specifically for skin to skim in most hospitals since it’s not the norm, even at so called ‘baby friendly’ hospitals.
The pitocin injection we get here is supposedly to help with bleeding, shrink uterus, etc, but evidence based medicine actually points to it being more of a hindrance than a help. It can accelerate bleeding if it is too strong, interrupt breastfeeding by causing afterbirth pain which is intensified by breastfeeding, and cause uterus exhaustion which can lead to hemorrhaging, too.

I had a hospital birth and we did immediate skin to skin. No one pulled on my placenta, and I wasn’t given any Pitocin. They told me the cord was wrapped around his neck, and even then they asked my permission to cut it. The nurses were SO encouraging and kind, the main nurse had gone through a natural birth herself. Their advice was thoughtful and helpful and they were there by my side motivating me. (Keep in mind, by the time I got to the hospital I was already transitioning- had the baby 30 minutes later).
So not all hospitals in America are horror stories….My doctor didn’t get there in time because she was doing a surgery and only had 30 minutes to get there before I popped him out! The only thing that bothered me is that I was forced to push laying on my back. It was so terrible and unnatural. They had to hold my legs and arms and I felt like a mental patient strapped down to a bed. Of course I tore, and the stitches were awful. I was shaking in pain. But my baby was put right on me and they didn’t weigh him for 30 minutes or so, whenever I had to get up to use the restroom.

Of course you’re always going to find hospitals who really are trying to do the right thing. Both of my children were hospital births and this one probably will again. My son’s birth was a horror show because it was an induction and all personal freedom went out the window in the face of ‘hospital policy’ but my daughter’s birth was ‘normal’ and therefore I was able to make it a dream come true. I’m not a hospital hater. I’m not a fan of hospitals who follow outdated trends and treat birth like an emergency waiting to happen, which sadly is how most hospitals in the states are set up to deliver babies, especially large hospitals with space issues and not enough doctors, or hospitals with government funding who have really super strict policies sent down by the state and are at risk for losing their funding if a mom or doctor doesn’t want to follow it. Basically, I’m about evidence based medicine and patient centered care versus a template for how birth should go and legal red tape that limits any deviation. I’m also for patient needs trumping doctors needs/comforts, which is why I’m not really a fan of only a few doctors being on call per night and those few doctors all ‘specializing’ in the same thing or all residing in the same comfort zone. Hospitals should pander to laboring mothers not the doctors, basically  within reason since there’s always those naysayers who have to point out that laboring mothers ‘don’t always know what’s best’ *gag*.

faeriesandlakes:

mamabeezoe:

faeriesandlakes:

thegingerdementor:

faeriesandlakes:

thegingerdementor:

momma-taye:

momandherskullkids:

faeriesandlakes:

How are you improving birth?

By speaking out?

By becoming a part of your birthing community?

By supporting mothers with similar stories to your own?

By refusing to accept that this is ‘just how things are’?

Submit you photo and sign up for an Improving Birth rally in your area today!

something very similar happened when I was in labor with my son. My doctor “wasn’t on call” and I got one of her partners that I had never met (still haven’t met) she strolled in with no sense of urgency. Then was surprised when she saw that I was crowning. Told me not to push because she hadn’t even donned gloves. I told her that I couldn’t just NOT push and she said I had better if I didn’t want my child to fall out onto the concrete floor (after making a smartass remark about how I refused an epidural)… After Kai was born, they immediately cut his cord against my wishes, then he was rushed off to the “warmer” without me getting to even see him. I begged for my child while she shoved her hand back into my uterus and scraped my placenta and the wall of my uterus with her hands.. Weeks prior to Kai’s arrival, I had set it up that his placenta/cord would go to science research, they disposed of it without consulting me. I cried for 2 hours until they brought me my child. I will NEVER have another hospital birth.

THAT IS SO AWFUL! I’m praying that the midwives at the hospital I’m going to be delivering in will better adhere to my wishes.

Wait, so in America they pull your placenta out? For real? What the actual fuck guys?! :( we get the choice of breastfeeding to allow it to come out naturally, or to get given an injection which will contract your uterus for the placenta to come out on its own.

In America it is standard practice to manually remove the placenta. They give the mother a bag of pitocin, then encourage her to push as they gently tug on the umbilical cord to help the placenta dislodge. Some doctors will not have the mom push and just pull. Some doctors will reach in and manually remove the placenta. It usually depends on whether or not the mother has had an epidural, needs more medical care, or if the doctor has another patient waiting or another patient needs the delivery room. They also want to examine the placenta for any tears or abnormalities before they leave, which doctors like to do fairly quickly as the delivery, so waiting around for the mother to naturally expel the placenta isn’t something they want to do. They also feel that the risk of hemorrhage is high if the mother delivers the placenta without supervision by a doctor or midwife, and since they like to leave, they want it done sooner rather than later.

All of this, of course, is against evidence based medicine and are things that should only be put into practice in an emergency medical situation, but since we treat every birth like it’s an emergency waiting to happen here in the states, everyone gets mostly the same ‘preventative’ treatments before, during, and after birth.

Oh wow :( that sounds awful! The injection we get also helps stop you bleeding out as well as contracting your uterus. It’s all over and done with in about 1-2 hours after birth. This is the time you spend skin to skin with the baby. This is all obviously based on a pretty normal labour and delivery, but even if something happens, they try and stick to that as much as possible.
It may vary from place to place though. The place I’m going to give birth has had some pretty horrific stories, but I’m actually beginning to feel a lot more grateful that it’s not like the US!

Yeah, here the time after baby is born is commonly used to do injections, weigh, measure, get Apgars, deliver placenta, sew up tears, deliver any emergency care that is needed. Usually breastfeeding isn’t initiated until 1-2 hours after birth hence our abysmal breastfeeding rates. You have to ask specifically for skin to skim in most hospitals since it’s not the norm, even at so called ‘baby friendly’ hospitals.

The pitocin injection we get here is supposedly to help with bleeding, shrink uterus, etc, but evidence based medicine actually points to it being more of a hindrance than a help. It can accelerate bleeding if it is too strong, interrupt breastfeeding by causing afterbirth pain which is intensified by breastfeeding, and cause uterus exhaustion which can lead to hemorrhaging, too.

I had a hospital birth and we did immediate skin to skin. No one pulled on my placenta, and I wasn’t given any Pitocin. They told me the cord was wrapped around his neck, and even then they asked my permission to cut it. The nurses were SO encouraging and kind, the main nurse had gone through a natural birth herself. Their advice was thoughtful and helpful and they were there by my side motivating me. (Keep in mind, by the time I got to the hospital I was already transitioning- had the baby 30 minutes later).

So not all hospitals in America are horror stories….My doctor didn’t get there in time because she was doing a surgery and only had 30 minutes to get there before I popped him out! The only thing that bothered me is that I was forced to push laying on my back. It was so terrible and unnatural. They had to hold my legs and arms and I felt like a mental patient strapped down to a bed. Of course I tore, and the stitches were awful. I was shaking in pain. But my baby was put right on me and they didn’t weigh him for 30 minutes or so, whenever I had to get up to use the restroom.

Of course you’re always going to find hospitals who really are trying to do the right thing. Both of my children were hospital births and this one probably will again. My son’s birth was a horror show because it was an induction and all personal freedom went out the window in the face of ‘hospital policy’ but my daughter’s birth was ‘normal’ and therefore I was able to make it a dream come true.

I’m not a hospital hater. I’m not a fan of hospitals who follow outdated trends and treat birth like an emergency waiting to happen, which sadly is how most hospitals in the states are set up to deliver babies, especially large hospitals with space issues and not enough doctors, or hospitals with government funding who have really super strict policies sent down by the state and are at risk for losing their funding if a mom or doctor doesn’t want to follow it. Basically, I’m about evidence based medicine and patient centered care versus a template for how birth should go and legal red tape that limits any deviation. I’m also for patient needs trumping doctors needs/comforts, which is why I’m not really a fan of only a few doctors being on call per night and those few doctors all ‘specializing’ in the same thing or all residing in the same comfort zone. Hospitals should pander to laboring mothers not the doctors, basically within reason since there’s always those naysayers who have to point out that laboring mothers ‘don’t always know what’s best’ *gag*.

So I’m talking to my sister today and showed her pictures of the baby I helped deliver.

Sister: “Oh look! The eyes are already open!”
Me: “Of course they are…”
Sister: “Oh, so… they aren’t like puppies or something? “

I am so lost. This girl man.

Posted 4 days ago With 4 notes

The only person you can legally hit in the United States is a child.

Hit your partner, and you’ll be arrested for domestic violence. Hit another adult, and you’ll be arrested for assault. But hit a 4-year-old, and you can call yourself a “loving father.” That’s completely screwed up.

It should be against the law for a fully grown adult to slap, hit, spank, punch, switch, whoop, whip, paddle, kick or belt a defenseless child in the name of discipline. But it is legal, and new research in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests that the average 4-year-old is hit 936 times a year.

If study after study conclusively proves that hitting your kids doesn’t work as a disciplinary method, and worse, it has long-term damaging impact to their psychology and makes your kids more aggressive, why do we as a society allow it?

Mel Robbins, "Spanking Isn’t Parenting; It’s Child Abuse" (via holygoddamnshitballs)

Posted 5 days ago With 1,094 notes

Did I mention I love fall? I’m seriously obsessed. Falling leaves, cooler air, beautiful views, holidays, and pumpkins. I can’t wait to try this recipe!

Did I mention I love fall? I’m seriously obsessed. Falling leaves, cooler air, beautiful views, holidays, and pumpkins. I can’t wait to try this recipe!

Kourtney has always found it HILARIOUS when parents are slapped in the face by kids in public. What does Emma do during their visit? Slap her in the face. Needless to say we both found the humor in it.

Kourtney has always found it HILARIOUS when parents are slapped in the face by kids in public. What does Emma do during their visit? Slap her in the face. Needless to say we both found the humor in it.

beelzeboob666:

I really need a midwife, doula, or fellow student midwife to talk to. If you see this post and can help, follow me or send a message please. I’m at the end of my rope.

Hi! I’m a birth/postpartum doula. Message with what you need:)

Posted 5 days ago With 2 notes